My older relatives who passed away were more accepting and understanding. You don't fit in with the crowd, so you can't sit back and agree with a matter you don't believe in. Take me for example. I'm more nerdy and introverted, less religious, and more open minded compared to my family. I just don’t fit in. How to deal? They're also passive aggressive in … don't fit in with my family. I tend to be more outspoken than my peers, less religious, more bookish, more alternative… Do good things to other people. I am in the same situation but instead of feelings of depression from this, I’ve accepted that I am always going to be the “black sheep”. Be happy with yourself. I yearned for acceptance, so I spent much of my time trying to be someone I wasn't. I have learned that its more important to work on being a good person. But figuring that out as a teenager can be life-changing. I ask “what is the truth”. Unfortunately, many of us spend time thinking about what we ‘should’ be doing, rather than allowing our hearts lead us in the direction we really want to go. To them, different equals bad. I have convictions. They are very insular, very involved with each other, and very apt to causing problems amongst each other if the others don't fit into what they expect of them the instant they expect it. You state your opinions loud and clear. Learning what makes you happy is more important than trying to fit someone else’s idea of a successful life. 2. For me, it translated into a low self-worth, no self-esteem, and reckless behavior. My family (as in parents and siblings) don't talk to me much or spend time with me or tell me about anything that's going on in their lives or in the family. This sounds exactly like my DH's family. One way to help yourself is to make some time for yourself, to relax and enjoy what you like and then make time for the rest of the world, including family. We don't always fit in with our families as much as we would like to. I … I’m trying to be a “better” person, and although I may not have any clue what the means, or how to go about doing it, I’m trying. Grow in your wisdom and spirituality. I used to handle it by doing my best to avoid groups where I didn’t fit in right away. Accept you do not fit and be good with it as the more you read, grow and learn the less you will fit. The thing is, they're really lovely people. But as I’ve grown older and started a family and career, it’s become an important part of my values to show up for others, for my friends, family, career, and myself, even when it’s not comfortable for me. Anonymous: Anonymous wrote:I've always felt like the black sheep per se. Don't try to force them to fit into who you want them to be. First I’d like to say I understand. Of course, my family history does partly define me, but mostly not in the way that those people think. You have an independent mind. 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